How do you deal with being tired?

Are you tired? Physically? Emotionally? Spiritually?

I posted this the other day when I realized I was flat out tired in every aspect of my life.  It came about because of a 6 week issue w my back, 2 weeks of travel while dealing with work, and relationships that were out of sorts. Needless to say, this fatigue was not making it easy to remain thankful in all things. This got me thinking about the title of this blog post. “How do you deal with tired?” There really are different types of tiredness and fatigue but they all come from not getting enough rest. There are ways we can resolve being tired on our own. Making sure you get enough sleep, maintaining a balance in your life, and limiting stress are a few that come to mind. These are certainly a good place to start but what I am learning is we can’t always resolve what causes fatigue on our own. Trying to handle the emotional and spiritual fatigue by ourselves often times can exacerbate it making us even more tired. It isn’t always about getting away either. As Dottie’s mom used to say, “Wherever I go, there I am.” We can’t get away from ourselves but we can ask others for help.

Max Lucado writes in his book Traveling Light, “ Weary travelers. You’ve seen them — everything they own crammed into their luggage. Staggering through terminals and hotel lobbies with overstuffed suitcases, trunks, duffels, and backpacks. We’ve all seen people like that. At times, we are people like that — if not with our physical luggage, then at least with our spiritual or emotional load. We all lug loads we were never intended to carry. Fear. Worry. Discontent. No wonder we get so weary. We’re worn out from carrying that excess baggage. Wouldn’t it be nice to lose some of those bags?” Yes, there are burdens we carry that weigh us down. We often times need others to help us carry them or help us realize that we can just leave them behind. I wrote about how we need others in my most recent post. God, sent Jesus to help us ease our burdens as well. Matthew 11:28 gives us the advice, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.” Think of yourself as the above mentioned weary traveler. How good does it feel when someone says,”Can I help you with those bags” or opens a door for you when your hands and arms are full? My reminder to you is life is not to do life alone. We need each other. Even Jesus sent the disciples not alone, but in pairs. “Calling the Twelve to him, he began to send them out two by two and gave them authority over impure spirits.” Mark 6:7 Like Max Lucado wrote, we need others to help us when we don’t have the strength to carry on on our own.
Reverend Paul Walker summed it up this way in his “almost daily devotional”. “It is good to give thanks to the Lord, to sing praises to your name, O Most High; to declare your steadfast love in the morning, and your faithfulness by night.” (Psalm 92: 1-2) Morning and night. In the morning you might be raring to go, optimistic about the day ahead. You also might be tired fatigued, sluggish, or anxious about what the day holds. Either way, declaring God’s steadfast love is the way to begin and end each day.

“O Lord, support us all the day long, until the shadows lengthen, and the evening comes, and the busy world is hushed, and the fever of live is over, and our work is done. Then in your mercy, grant us a safe lodging, and a holy rest, and peace at the last. Amen.” (In the Evening – BCP p. 833)

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To what are you being held hostage?

My pastor shared a story about saving a goose who had gotten entangled with some fishing line. He knew the goose was in trouble but couldn’t see why until he dove into the water. I learned two lessons as he shared.
It may not be fishing lines but, like the goose, there are things that restrict us from living our lives to the fullest. Look at your life. Is it all you want it to be? If not, what holds you back? Is it lack of confidence, fear, mistrust or like Romans 12:2 says, are you conforming to the world versus experiencing what God wants for your life. We may not even see what holds us back. Like my pastor did I helping the goose, we need others to help identify what is holding us back and then aid us with removing it. The scripture that comes to mind is when Jesus raises Lazarus from the dead. If you read the story, Lazarus comes out of the tomb bound in dead clothes meaning his arms and legs were wrapped in material. Jesus speaks to his family/friends next saying “now take his dead clothes off so that he can go home.” The same thing happens when four friends bring a paralyzed man to Christ for healing. I love that Jesus heals the man because of the faith of the four friends. This passage brought new meaning to me during my fight with Guillain Barre Syndrome. There were so many people who faithfully prayed for my recovery. I am certain my extraordinary recovery was enhanced because of the faithfulness of others.
Whether on your own or with the help in others, ask God to help you shed all that keeps you from the abundant life promised in John 10:10. Think about it. Lazurus came out of the grave bound in grave clothes. He had been raised from the dead. Like the four guys with their now walking friend, Jesus says to the families and friends, now take his grave clothes off so he can go home! Be encouraged. Today is the day you let go of what is holding you back. You are a new creation! Go out out and live that way 😀😀

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Prepare your heart for God’s leadings

Every week I focus on what it is God wants me to write. Usually, something I read or listen to directs me in a certain direction. This week several things moved me toward this post. I realized my heart was being prepared to receive a progression of lessons that led to the point I felt led to share. It reminded me of the parable in Matthew 13. It is an ‘allegory’ about the Kingdom of God. Just as a planted seed starts to grow, if hearts are properly prepared, the word of God starts to deepen and grow within a person. What follows are some simple steps to properly align yourself so that you can move toward your true purpose.
It starts with a willingness to pray. Scripture says we are to pray without ceasing. It is like breathing. If we stop we no longer live. If we stop praying we can not experience the life giving force it gives. As we pray we become mindful that the One who created wants to know and be in relationship with us. It untangles us from the things we think brings life and reminds us of the One who gives us life.
PRAYER leads us to an understanding there is something bigger us. A God who loves us all just the same making us no better than anyone else. It gives us the desire to honor and serve Him in all we do which leads us to HUMILITY. Like David in Psalm 51 we ask, “Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. Do not cast me from your presence or take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore in me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.” Again, a prayer asking to be sustained and it also moves us humbly into a right and willing attitude. It is in that place that we can begin to truly live the life that was intended for us.

Last night we got some much-needed rain. It reminded me that God wants to rain blessings down on all of us. The question is, “are we prepared to receive it.” Praying so that we become humble and poor in spirit soften our hearts and be properly prepared for what God wants to give us. However, if we continue to be people thinking there is no God and everything depends on me, we are like hard pavement. Like the rain, God sends his blessings only for them to wash away wasted as their was nowhere for them to be received. God loves each and everyone of us and wants to bless you with His presence in your life. May you find the way to ask God to show you the way to aligning yourself to Matthew 5:8, “Still other seed fell on good soil, where it produced a crop—a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown.” When you do, He promises an abundant life and a chance to realize your true purpose in this crazy, uncertain, world.

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Do you find it hard to wait?

Isaiah 40:31 “Even youths grow tired and weary, and young people stumble and fall. But those who wait upon the LORD will renew their strength; they will mount up with wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary,they will walk and not faint.

When was the last time you really had to wait for something? Last night my grandchildren were “starving” and said they would die if they didn’t get their chicken tenders in 5 minutes. I didn’t think it was the right time to share that there are children all over the world who really are starving. If everyone reading this post commented, the list would be long and include things more important than when will your food arrive. The list would include reconciliation with a family member, the tests were negative, you got the job, you found a partner, you finally get to see a loved one, etc. Like me, I sure it becomes harder to believe in God’s promises when they take a long time to come.

I have thought a lot about what does it mean to wait? It started two years ago with having and then recovering from Guillain Barre Syndrome We all then waited through Covid and the life challenges it created and in many ways is still creating. Recently I have I had to wait on life returning to normal due to Covid19. Over the last 4 weeks, it has been waiting on L4 disc and impinged nerve to recover so I can once again be pain free. Thankfully, that seems to be on the mend as well 🙂

I know waiting is just a part of life but I believe God uses waiting to make us more cognizant of Him. He wants us to, not go from what we are waiting for to what where you are to go or what we will receive, without Him with us. He wants us to acknowledge Him in the now so we can be grateful for what comes next. Think about it. So many people God had big plans for had a time of waiting. Abraham Moses Esther Esther 5 (God had been working quietly behind the scenes, moving Esther into place as queen, to bring rescue His children from Haman’s plans of genocide.) Noah (Genesis 8:10) and the Apostle Paul had times (one found in Acts 9:30) where they had to wait on what God had planned for them. Even His Son ,Jesus, spent 40 days fasting in the desert before starting His ultimate ministry.

God says “Be Still and know that He is God.” Could it be that, whatever period of waiting you find yourself, it is God giving you a chance to slow down so you can experience His presence in your life?

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You, yes You, can make a difference in the world.

A couple weeks ago, I wrote about what I learned from my friend Laura Huyett’s memorial service. In it, I shared how she would always ask those who came to care for her, “How is your day going?” One person responded, “my days would be much better if I had more people like you in it“. I was sadly reminded of this very thing last week. I met a woman while recovering at Albemarle Rehab Center from Guillain Barre syndrome. Her name was Teresa Jordan and she absolutely made my very challenging days and nights much better. Unfortunately, she died this past week after a battle with cancer. Her job obviously was to care for her patients but God created a special bond between her, Dottie, and me. When I was well enough to go home, she and I hugged and cried together. She was always so happy when I would stop by to check on her. The restrictions placed because of Covid robbed me of more time with her. In fact, I didn’t even know she was sick. I am saddened that I did not get a chance to go visit, cheer her up like she did me, and pray. Thankfully, a mutual friend texted this after she died. “She would have loved seeing you. You were her number one patient “of all time.” She cried every time you walked into AHR.” I am glad I made her life better by being in it as she did mine.

Teresa, along with many others like Sheri, Susan, Tony, Rob, Jarrett, and Hilary, exemplified the mantra, my life was better because she was in it. I had no idea I would be writing about her when I posted about Laura’s death. I will now do my best moving forward to carry out both of their legacies in wanting to make other peoples lives better. My hope is that you will be encouraged to do what Matthew 5:16 instructs, “In the same way, let your light shine before people, so they can see the good things you do and praise your Father who is in heaven.” Get out of your own mindset and look around you. There are people crossing your path every day that are really hurting and discouraged. Galatians 6:2 says we are to “Carry each other’s burdens and so you will fulfill the law of Christ.” … You may be just the person God has chosen to lift them up. Will you respond like Isaiah did in Isaiah 6:8, saying “Here I am Lord, send me”

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Keeping your “WIT’S” about you.

I started this blog a couple of weeks ago. I postponed it so that I could write the lessons I learned from a friend’s funeral. Little did I know that by postponing this post, I would be given a very different perspective on what I originally set out to share with you.
Keeping your wits about you is a common expression. It means, “to be ready to think quickly in a situation and react to things that you are not expecting”. Recently though I have been thinking about having a “Whatever it takes” attitude. This thought means “More than the efforts, it is the ‘whatever it takes’ attitude, which enables that small, yet critical push to achieve success” Another way of saying this is having the desire to get a little bit better each day takes us to a place we never thought possible. In a blog post, Jodie Berndt described it this way. “To experiencing a life marked by purpose. To living freely and lightly—not straining or striving, but moving to the “unforced rhythms of grace”.
These definitions show that “whatever it takes or “being all in no matter what” do not have to conjure up a negative “win at all costs” mentality. We saw this time and time again during the recent Olympic Games. Watching them taught me something about keeping my WIT’S about me. My hope is you too can learn from my lessons learned from adversity thoughts so you can remain thankful in all things. 😀

Japan hosted the Olympics with Covid cases rising at record rates in Tokyo. Their whatever it takes focus resulted in out of 600,000 Covid test on athletes, coaches, staff, and volunteers they only had 440 positive cases. This allowed the athletes to realize their dreams in what turned out to be a very safe environment. The olympians also taught us that having their WIT’S about them resulted in them being thankful even if it didn’t result in getting the gold. Case in point was Simone Biles who said the bronze on the balance beam means more than the golds she has won because she did what she needed to do to face her fears so that she could compete. Rai Benjamin broke the world record time only to get beat in the 400 meter hurdles? He certainly gave it his all in his preparation and execution to win. There is no doubt that he wanted the gold but walked away with a precious silver knowing he gave it his best. Allyson Felix is another great example of someone who didn’t win but left the track satisfied because she proved to those who said she would not be able to come back after having her baby.

God wants us to live a life filled with joy and gratitude. He promises us an abundant life without regret when we submit to Him with a WIT’S trusting in Him mentality. Hebrews 12 says, “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith.” So how do we begin the have a positive whatever it takes mindset?

1) Pay attention, stay focused on wanting to serve others 

2) Listen to those who have been on the journey longer than you.

3) Ask God for strength and wisdom

4) Be determined to do good but have patience

5) Trust God for the outcome.

In the world’s eyes, Sometimes our ‘best’ is not good enough. Like the Olympics, it communicates if you didn’t win a medal you are a loser. Watching the closing ceremonies this morning, I believe nothing can be further from the truth. Athletes marched in to the arena smiling because they knew they had done everything they could which resulted in them being in that moment. Each one of them was applauded as they entered whether they had a medal around their neck or not. That is all God wants from us as well. He applauds and finds great pleasure in us when we love Him with all out hearts, love others as He loves us, and then no matter what the outcome, be grateful for His love and thankful for all things.

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Some takeaways that come from funerals

Last week I wrote on the lessons learned from watching a sunrise. Unfortunately, this week a good friend passed away which motivated me to share more thoughts on lessons we learn from adversity.

When my Mom (‘05) and Dad (‘09) died, it meant so much to me to see the people who showed up to honor their lives and be there for me. Even if I didn’t get much time with them at the service or after, I knew they had come and it deeply touched my heart. 

I went to a Celebration of Life yesterday for a dear friend Laura Wilson Huyett. Her service once again reminded me of the three main reasons why going to these type of services should be a priority over almost anything else on the calendar. 

First-The people who have lost a loved one are hurting. I choose to go so they know I am there and will be there when they need me in the future.

Secondly-I go to honor and pay my respects to the person who has died. It is my way of saying the person’s life mattered and in some way made an impact on my life. 

Finally, I attend to glean from what people share about the one being honored. I always find something I can begin doing in my life to 1, make myself a better person, and, 2, to carry on the legacy of the life that has ended. 

Laura’s life celebration was no different. There were so many wonderful things shared. (On a quick side note, take the time to tell people how you love them and what they mean to you while they are still alive) Stories were told that I had never heard before but two stuck out. Pastor Joey shared that Laura’s life was not just a song but a symphony. Laura lived out Psalm 40:1-3 I waited patiently for the Lord;
    he turned to me and heard my cry.
He lifted me out of the slimy pit,
    out of the mud and mire;
he set my feet on a rock
    and gave me a firm place to stand.
He put a new song in my mouth,
    a hymn of praise to our God.
Many will see and fear the Lord
 and put their trust in him.

Laura Wilson Huyett lived out these verses and in the midst of sadness and mourning, this very special woman brought everyone great joy in her almost 65 years of life. The remembrances shared gave me much more to ponder on how I will now try to add new movements to the symphony God is trying to compose with my life. 

One person who shared described her life as a never ending treasure hunt. Like looking for Easter eggs, children run out into the yard looking for eggs knowing they have been placed by others for them to find. I will take this beautiful picture and strive to live life as she did with a sense of wonder knowing God has placed amazing things for me to find. May I look for the treasures with a trust knowing God put them there for me to find. 

As her husband Jay shared, I am grateful she had the courage to show us all how to joyfully persevere in suffering. One example was shared by Rick and Shannon Campanelli. Every person that came in to her room was asked “How is your day going”? One person’s response summed it quite well. “My life would be better if I was around more people like you”

Laura’s symphony has gone with a crescendo from one movement called “the already” to what God promises “will come” . Unlike a symphony, the next movement never ends. She will be waiting for all of us to say, “there are so many treasures here. Come, let me help you find and experience them” 

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Me in Jay and Laura’s wedding 🙂

Simple lessons learned from a sunrise.

Last week I was blessed to spend several days at the beach. For those who follow me on Facebook,, you saw the post showing I enjoyed every sunrise while I was there. The last morning my mind clicked in on how a sunrise teaches me to begin and live out the day that it starts. Taking in all what comes with a sunrise (attach video) brought a fresh perspective of my morning routine. Side note, if you need one check out Glenn Lundy’s Morning 5. The Morning 5 | Glenn Lundy
I am sure what I will write here came from earlier in the week reading a devotional and then writing about how we need to be ready to be replenished every day so that we can be the best version of ourselves. Last week I learned from a simple cup of coffee (if you missed it click here I have a Code to Life, what is yours? – Thankful in all Things)and this week how I am to live is more clearly focused as I think about sunrises and what they teach us.
First, there is something special about getting up early. If you don’t, you miss the beauty of a new day dawning. You also realize that you are amongst a select few that make the effort to greet and get ready for whatever God has in store for you. I have found rushing into the day without settling into it first, makes for more frenetic day no matter what is on the schedule. It allows us to remain in the quiet presence of God even as we enter the noise of our schedule. I love the Martin Luther quote when he was asked how do you prepare for the busiest of days? While most of us rationalize spending less time w God because of our schedule, he answered, “I have so much to do that I shall spend the first three hours in prayer.”
Second, I watched as people walked or ran along the beach without stopping to take in the beauty the God of the Universe was creating. How many times throughout the day are we just so busy, so tunnel visioned, that we miss opportunities that present themselves right in front of us. Wow! Why be up early and down on the beach and not stop to experience all that moment in time has to offer.
Finally, it reminds me of the way the Lord allows me to reset each and every day. No matter how I may have messed up or failed at something yesterday, the sun rising shows me that it is a new day and out of the darkness will once again come the light. That I am free to confess whatever I did wrong or how I might have let someone else down. When I do, the God who sends the sun each and every morning will forgive me and cleanse me from all unrighteousness so that I might be renewed. (1John 1:9) That way, I can move forward into the day thankful for all things but most importantly for the God who loves me and you.
Jesus, thanks for coming to live amongst us so that we can learn that it is not about being religious but about a personal relationship with God because of you. Thank you that you give us that opportunity. As we watch our next sunrise, may each of us decide to renew ourselves in you. Like the sunrise creates a new day, create us more and more into your image so that we might take advantage of what you want to do in their lives. I summed up last week in this way
A week of sun rises has come and gone, 

A great way to start each day enjoying the break. 

The consistency of it and the waves coming in/going out,

Shows me what my life should be about. 

Reflecting first on God’s work in my life

and then when it’s time stepping out to bring peace not strife. 

Let me serve you Lord in all that I do 

Let my actions toward others show that I love You.

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How do you keep yourself energized?

Charles Stanley-“Whether or not we affect our world positively depends on the focus of our heart. Do you look inward to consider how you can do more to get ahead and add to your lot in life? Or do you look outward and think about ways that you can do more to serve others?”I posted this recently as one of my daily social media posts. My new Instagram friend Jeff asked me this question, “Is not a balance needed? Can one give what one does not have?” my answer was this, “burnout is a real phenomena, That is why we need to be continually filling ourselves with God‘s love through the Holy Spirit.” I really appreciated him asking me the question as I had already been preparing this message. It came from a devotional from Ashley Headley using her morning cup of coffee. Wait! A cup of coffee.

She wrote, “You can’t pour fresh coffee into a cup already full.” First there is no room for more and second, the fresh taste would be spoiled by the staleness of what was left over from yesterday. God wants us to experience the sweet taste of His abundance. Ashley continues, “Like my morning cup of Joe, God wants to pour His Word, a fresh anointing, and a fresh blessing into us every day.” Like an already full cup, our lives are too full with the distractions of the world. What do we need to empty out so God can have room to give us a fresh perspective on life?” Pastor Jeff was right. We we need to continually replenish ourselves with all He has to offer so we can be the best versions of ourselves. It needs to be a restoration of ourselves vs a renovation project. What is the difference? A renovation makes everything new, fresh, and shiny whereas a restoration brings something back to its original purpose. In this case, when we allow ourselves to stop chasing what the world says is success, we can return to to the beautiful fact that we were all created to be in a relationship with God. We can go about emptying ourselves throughout the day desiring to serve and love others as God loves us. That way we can return each morning with our cup empty so we can experience Psalm 119:103 “How sweet are your words to my taste, [O Lord Jesus,] sweeter than honey (or a fresh cup of coffee) to my mouth” Bill Gautierre sums it up this way. “I meditated on God’s promises and received nourishment for my soul. I prayed them and was strengthened to love my neighbor as the Lord loves me.” May you be encouraged To “put your confidence in God; rely on His Spirit; let the streams of His Living Waters flow into you and through you” (John 7:38-39).

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I have a Code to Life, what is yours?

In my last blog post, I wrote about how do you go about seeking out the key (The Code) to a successful life. I used an analogy of an electronic gate that if opened would lead you where you desired to go. Once opened, your life would not only be filled with success but be one that was seen as significant. This, not just success, but significance process comes from Bob Buford’s book, Finishing Well. Through 60 interviews of leaders, Bob makes the point that finding ways to make a significant impact lead people to a longer, healthier, and more fulfilled life overall. I guess I was well ahead of my time 😀 because since I started my real estate career in 1983, one of my affirmations has been “What positive difference will I make in the world today?” One that I have added recently is “Thank you for this new day Lord. How can I serve you today?” This comes from Psalm 118:24 “This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.” And from Isaiah 6:8 “Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying, “Whom shall I send? And who will go for�us?” And I said, “Here am I. Send�me!” This verse also leads me to Joshua 24:15 “But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD.”

I ended my last post saying I would share what I have found to be The Code for my life. How have I gotten to the place where making a positive difference in the world and wanting to serve are my two main focuses each day? I cannot speak for anyone else but me but finding The Code is like being thirsty and needing to find something to quench my thirst. Craig Denison in First15 said it this way. “Do you find yourself unsatisfied? Thinking there must be more? It is like an unquenchable thirst.   A thirst that is infinite that nothing finite can satisfy.” I hope those who know me or have been regular readers of “thankful in all things” would be able to say the unquenchable thirst in my life is satisfied because of my faith. The Code if you will, is knowing that I was created and loved by the God of the universe.

Matthew 6:33 challenges me to “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” If I seek Him first, not some but ALL things will be given. Not just in plenty but in want and in my case not just in health but in sickness. Little did I know that my faith of 50 years would be tested through my battle with Guillain Barre Syndrome and than through self-isolation due to my compromised immune system during Covid19. I sought the Lord for His presence and His help. What I received was a faith made even more real because He met me in that journey through adversity. He wants to do the same for you no matter what obstacles you are facing. Isaiah 33:6 shares the key to a significant life. We are to “have a sure foundation and the rich store of salvation and knowledge and wisdom which can be unlocked by this: having a deep awe and respect  (fear) of God.”
When boiled down to a simple daily mission statement, my code comes down to this focus. “Love the Lord with all your heart. Love others as He love you. Then let go go and trust that the outcome will lead you to a more significant and abundant life.”

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